Each ManMate
Dinners for 8 dinner party is your opportunity to
spend an evening
with 7 other gay men who have opened
themselves up to the possibilities
of meeting new people. Every
man at the table is there for a
reason. It's up to you to find out why.
Here are a few suggestions
on how to be successful.
Arrive at the restaurant on time. Cocktails
and introductions
begin promptly at 7pm. The foundation of the
group dynamic is
formed during this part of the evening. If you
arrive late, you
may feel less connected when the party is seated
at the table.
Be yourself. You are seated based on the informaton
that we
discovered about you during your interview and because the
other men at the party have expressed an interest in meeting
someone
like you. Be true to who you are and let it show through.
Speak
with everyone at the table. This is a new opportunity to relate
directly to seven other gay men. Don't monopolize the conversation.
If there is someone at the table who seems quiet or shy, help to draw
him out. Support the other men at the table.
Stay in the present. Don't
talk about ex-boyfriends or any past horror stories. Concentrate on
interests or points of view you have in common. Be who you are, not
who you were.
Attitude. First impressions are important. If you're
exuding anxiety or a rigid demeanor, who's going to be interested?
Lighten up. Remain open minded. Bring your curiosity and
sense of adventure.
Rules of attraction. If you sense that your attraction
to one of the other men is not really reciprocated, don't force
the issue. Direct your energy toward another guy. If you're the one
who's less interested, don't "write off" the interested party.
He might know someone who is absolutely perfect for you! That's
another benefit of membership to ManMate Dinners for 8: meeting
men who can introduce you to other men.
Follow through and respect. If
you take someone's number…call him. If one of the men contacts
you…call him back. Unreturned phone calls and lack of follow
through are a real drag. We've all been on both sides of this issue.
It's really simple…follow through and communicate where things stand.
