6. Getting sexual right away. Doesn't usually work out. Allow yourself
time to balance physical attraction with other important elements like basic communication and similar outlooks and interests. Give
it a chance to be more than a sexual encounter.
7. Pacing. You can't take a relationship faster than the pace at which BOTH guys are
comfortable. In other words, if you tend to be more intense or serious than the other guy, ease up. Allow him time to discover how
he feels and wants to proceed. Let go of needing to control the outcome.
8. Unequal attraction. This means tuning into vibes from the
other guy. Be honest with yourself. Often the level of attraction is not equal. If you sense your attraction to him is not really
reciprocated, don't try to force the issue. Let it go and direct your energy toward a more promising candidate. And if you're the
one who's less interested, let the other guy know as quickly and tactfully as possible. Don't leave him in limbo.
9. Follow through
and respect. Unreturned phone calls and lack of follow through are a real drag. We've probably all been on both sides of this issue.
It's really simple. Have enough respect for each other to follow through and communicate where things stand. That way you can both
move forward.
10. Special Quality. You've got it. Acknowledge it to yourself and let it come through on all your future first, and
subsequent dates.